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5 Simple Ways To Make Your Kids Feel Special

5. Draw them a picture

Think of all the times they’ve drawn pictures for you. It’s how they show you they love you. Drawing you and them standing hand-in-hand with your house in the background… maybe put the dog in there. It’s a great way to let your youngun know how you feel about them. If you really don’t want to bother, let me draw you a picture for them!

4. Take them on a date

If you have a ton of kids, take them two at a time… but if you only have a few, set up a time where it’s just you and them out on the town. Take them out to eat, get dessert, then a movie or just go shopping. It’s a great way to bond and it makes them the center of your world with none of the distractions of home around to bother you.

3. Talk about them to others

There is nothing I loved more as a child than to overhear my mom talking me up to her friends. It only happened a few times that I remember… but I remember each one to this day. She’d talk about how I was bringing my grades up. How I was such a good artist for my age. She’d brag on my improving behavior. Not only will you kids’ heart soar… they will want to impress you even further!

2. Let them help you

If you’re still lucky enough to have kids that want to help you around the house… let them! Yes it’s more difficult and will take a lot more time… but they want to help! That’s priceless! Not only are you teaching them the benefits of work by making it fun… it’s develops a part of your relationship that nothing else can. It makes you a team. Your child feels they are side-by-side with you, for just that moment… it makes them feel big. It gives them a preview of adulthood… and a good one at that. They’ll learn from you and they’ll want to grow up just like you.

1. Tell them you love them

I casually tell my kids I love them all the time. But once in a while I literally hold my girl’s head in my hands and stare deep into her eyes and say, “Girl, I love you so much.” She’s 4 and a half… and she tears up almost every time.

I grew up without most of the things on this list. Chances are you missed out too. I strive to raise my kids the way I wanted to be raised. They’re so much like me already. It’s going to be awesome seeing them become more than I ever could because they’re getting what they need now. Let’s all commit to giving what we didn’t receive.

Every Family Should Have A Podcast

James & Jenn Podcasting

My wife and I have been podcasting together since 2007. I won’t get into the details of how to get your wife to podcast because this article is an open call to every couple out there: YOU SHOULD BE PODCASTING!

Obviously podcasting is a fancy word for recording an audio file, turning it into an mp3 and uploading it on the internet. I’ve written several podcast how-to articles on how to start your own show and how I podcast myself. Check them out if you’re looking for some tips.

In our context podcasting becomes an audio timeline of events in your family. Sure we have scrapbooks full of photos… but photos can’t remind you of the weekly events, funny things someone said, little stories that you might forget. Photos can’t capture the voice of your children, the tone of your spouse’s voice. Podcasts can do all of this.

Podcasting, when done correctly, can also serve to bond your family together. Whether you podcast with just a spouse or your entire family, this is a regular event that stands to connect you almost as much as dinner time… but with more lasting effects.

Even if you go through all the work to record, upload, set up the feed and all of the things necessary to do a show… and no one listens… who cares! This is something your family will cherish for years.

Ready to give it a shot? Here are some places to start:

If you end up getting a custom URl (like nlcast.com) consider using GoDaddy.com and the code podname121 to save a few bucks!

7 Ways To Convince Your Wife To Podcast

wife-podcast

Over the past year I’ve been asked several times, “How did you get your wife to podcast with you?” Though there’s no guarantee that what worked for me will work for you, I’m going tell you how I did it. Hopefully you’ll get some pointers that will help you reach your couple’s-casting goals.

1. Ask her

Don’t tell her. Don’t nag her. Don’t demand it. Just start by asking… and don’t be surprised if she is appalled by the idea. Think of your asking like a seed. Plant that seed and give it time to grow. Don’t kill your chances by getting angry if she doesn’t share your passion for recording right away.

2. Keep asking

This is not the same as nagging. Once a week or so, remind your spouse about your original request. Restate how much you would enjoy it if they joined you behind a mic. Help quell their fears about the sound of their own voice (most folks hate how they sound to others). Again, you’re not nagging here, you’re watering that seed, keeping it as a possibility in the back of their mind.

3. Make it easy Podcasting takes a lot of time. For the hour you spend recording, plan on at least a half-hour of pre-show prep and up to 2 hours of post-production work. Recording can be stressful if there are children, chores or other distractions. Find a ‘hole’ in your week where there is nothing else going on. This may mean you have to make a hole by helping more around the house. Maybe you can work out a trade. Your time for a little of hers. If you can make podcasting more fun than not podcasting… chances are good that you’ll get your co-host!

4. Duplicate your equipment

If it’s important for you to podcast with your wife… prove it! If her voice is as important as yours, give her the same equipment you’re using. Make sure her ‘spot’ in the room is just as comfortable. You don’t want her sitting in a metal folding chair behind your desk while you’re enjoying a $75 Walmart office chair. Don’t toss her a $14 headset mic and expect her to feel valued. What if you can’t afford another mic? Give her yours and you take the headset. I know it seems to make sense that the host would have the best equipment… but we’re investing in the long term. You can always save and buy a mic later… but there’s no point if you don’t have a co-host by then.

5. Interview her

When she finally does relent to your wily ways, she’ll most likely do so begrudgingly. Like a child trying brussle sprouts, she’ll be willing to give it a chance, but if it doesn’t go well, she’s done. So it’s important to make her feel like a natural. One of the most common things I hear is, “I wouldn’t know what to say,” or “No one will care.” So help her with both of those fears by creating a list of interview questions for your first show together. Give them to her in advance so that she can prepare responses. Then when it’s time to record, start asking those questions. She’ll feel comfortable with the topic. She’ll be more confident and informed. And trust me, internet people love to hear ladies talk! It’s a win, win!

6. Make it a win

Speaking of win. You’ve got to make the first experience an enjoyable and memorable one. The first show is not a time to critique her mic technique, how many times she says um or smacks her lips. If you want to lose your co-host before you even have one, start trying to perfect her from the get-go. Don’t pick. Don’t make fun. Better your humor be self-defacing than making her the butt of your joke. You might even consider not releasing your first. Let her know it’s a “pilot” episode (you can always release it later once you get a listener base, fans love that kind of stuff). It may help her relax.

7. Make it fun Here are some of the things I’ve done to make podcasting as enjoyable for her as for myself.

  1. Set our show email to send her a copy of each email. This allows her to get the same feedback as I do and involves her in the show. It reminds her that people like what we do throughout the week.
  2. I got her a Twitter account. She doesn’t update it much, but she sees that she has followers and it reinforces the fact that her time podcasting is well spent.
  3. I gave her a segment of the show called “Ask Jenn”. I knew she would love getting questions from our listeners and answering them on the show. It gives her a value beyond just responding to a host. She’ll tell you this is her favorite part of the show… and I’d wager it’s one of the listener’s favorite parts as well.
  4. It’s okay to not record. If it’s been a weird week, a bad day, or if anything at all is awry… we don’t have to record. No pressure. I very much want to do a consistent show… but even more than that I want a good show that not only entertains and informs… but also bonds myself and my wife together. If we’re not both in agreement, the show will not be good and the experience will not bond. Often just taking the pressure of “WE MUST RECORD NO MATTER WHAT” off will allow for a show when otherwise it would have been to much. Podcasting must be enjoyable… and solution to stress, not the cause of any.

I hope these tips will work for you. Podcasting with my spouse has become the highlight of my week. It is a truly rewarding experience in every way. If I or Jennifer can help you in your podcast journey in any way email us at geeklovesnerd@gmail.com. Do you have any tips or comments? Post them in the comments!