5 Things I’m Doing To Help My Wife More

I’m learning more and more that the key to a happy home is a happy wife. The key to a happy wife is making her feel appreciated and keeping her from feeling overwhelmed. The key to both of those is to  help her. It’s basic I know… but like so many things with relationships, it’s not knowing what to do, it’s buckling down and just doing it.

I’ve always figured that if my wife needed my help that she would ask. But she’s the type that things she should be able to handle it all on her own. She’s not good at asking. So these are things that I’ve just started to do on my own. I just made a list of tasks that seemed to drain her the most and took ownership of them. These aren’t things she’s asked me to do… they’re things I added myself and just let her know. She didn’t complain.

Here are a list of 5 things I’ve added to my Husband Portfolio that are really working wonders in my home.

1. I’ve started putting the kids to bed every night. We used to trade nights… now it’s my responsibility.

2. Bathing the kids… it’s my job now.

3. Cleaning the kitchen and doing dishes after dinner? My job now.

4. I must find and complete 5 tasks that help her around the house every evening after work.

5. I’ve secured a babysitter every other Thursday night so I can take her out to dinner.

She literally told me the other night, “You’re coming as close as you ever have to being the perfect husband”. I still have a bit to go I suppose. 🙂

Husbands, I put it to you. What things could you be doing (or are doing) to keep your wife happy, healthy and appreciated? Share your ideas in the comments so that we may all gain strength from your great wisdom!

5 thoughts on “5 Things I’m Doing To Help My Wife More”

  1. I’m getting married later this year, so this is the hyperoptimistic perspective of an engaged guy. 😉

    In addition to some of the things you mentioned, I also want to make sure that I dedicate some time every evening that is undistracted time with my wife. I won’t answer the phone, I won’t check my email, I won’t complain. Just listening to her, or even just sitting together before we start our evening activities.

  2. My wife recently started a business selling Pampered Chef products. I have been trying to be as supportive as possible by doing everything from loading the car to watching the kids to even trying out recipes she doesn’t have time to try. She’s an amazing mom and wife and I think she’ll be just as good at this business. It’s just interesting to me how the business can provide such a different dynamic in keeping her “happy,” feeling appreciated, and keeping her from feeling overwhelmed. I’m sure it’s this way with any working mom/wife it’s just the first time it’s been an issue with us.

  3. I bake cakes and make icing so my wife can decorate them (thats the part she likes best). I also clean up afterward.

    We don’t have children, but maybe I can bathe the cat for her 🙂

    I do clean the majority of the dishes.

    I need to be better at vacuuming and sweeping even when I can’t see the dirt.

  4. Logically, it would make total sense for us gals to ask our guys for more help! Oh, if only we girls made sense. So, I think it is awesome that you have thrown logic out the window and offered to take on some more jobs around the house to help Jen. Recently, my husband noticed that I was seeming a bit overwhelmed with my household duties as a result of my increased work load. As a result, he offered to take over some of the cooking. It means so much more to me than just the fact that someone else is cooking the meal – he saw that I was struggling and he stepped up to help. It makes me feel so loved and cared for. And Jen is right – it is so good to see the men in our lives becoming better husbands when so many seem to go the other way.

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